clare
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| 01/30/2010 6:10 PM |
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I'm going to get right to the point.
Guys, know where you stand, what your rules are, and never think you're strong enough to not weaken in a hard spot. Know exactly Where your rules are about kissing, holding hands, being alone with a girl, and proper and improper behavior. Unless you take a firm stand in your own heart you will fail. If you start to give in just a little you're going to slide fast. Don't put yourself in spots to "see how you'll handle it" to "make you stronger". That's stupid. Also, don't always think the girl is going to say when enough is enough or when to stop. Know that yourself! Don't try to see how far you can go before she says stop.
Girls, never think "he knows where to stop" that will make you put your guard down a little more at a time. You have to be strong enough also to say stop. And it's hard. Don't allow little compromises here and there. Girls like to feel their power and charms and to know they can get a guy's attention. But to use them wrongly, to see if you can't get him to want you, to try to get him to kiss you, even to date you, wrong!! Know a man's weakness and help him be stronger in that area, not weaker. men are visual and physical, don't use either of those powers on him!
Having good morals and values is good, but they will get you no where unless you have firm lines in your heart and mind what you'll do in the place of temptation.
May God give the strength to be strong!!!
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Bubbles
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| 01/30/2010 6:35 PM |
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| Hey Clare that is awesome!!!
It's really powerful, did you think of it yourself???
It's awesome seeing someone take a stand. |
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Blessings,
Bubbles |
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clare
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| 01/30/2010 7:19 PM |
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| I thought of it myself...because you learn from your experiences and mistakes |
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Bubbles
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| 01/30/2010 8:57 PM |
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| I'm new to the site and have been reading a lot of the forums; but this one was by far the most encouraging and teaching. Thanks!!! |
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Blessings,
Bubbles |
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Grant I.
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| 01/31/2010 10:04 PM |
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| *Clicks "Like" button over and over* Good words right there. |
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Prissy
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| 02/04/2010 3:03 PM |
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You hit the spot, Clare! Thats how it is! Thanks for sharing that!
Each person needs to make this decision! |
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nateynate
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| 02/12/2010 1:16 PM |
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| Hey clare, did something just happen recently with you and a guy or along those lines cause im getting this really strong feeling that something happened. Maybe not, i could be tripping but im just checking (not in a creepy way at all ha) |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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Adelynn
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| 02/13/2010 10:01 AM |
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Guys, know where you stand, what your rules are, and never think you're strong enough to not weaken in a hard spot.
agreed! Not only is it intensely awesome when a guy (or anyone) is strong in his opinions (without pushing them on other people- "agree to disagree"), but if you decide ahead of time what your convictions are, you are so much more likely to stick by them and not do something you'll regret.
Girls like to feel their power and charms and to know they can get a guy's attention. But to use them wrongly, to see if you can't get him to want you, to try to get him to kiss you, even to date you, wrong!!
haha so true! The thing is, at least for me, if it was just a game, and I was trying to get him to ask me out, that isn't fair to him at all. I would hate hate hate it if a guy did that to me.
good thoughts, Clare =) |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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clare
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| 02/13/2010 9:04 PM |
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| @ nate...ya something did happen. |
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nateynate
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| 02/20/2010 8:24 PM |
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| do you mind sharing if its not to uncomfortable? |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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Adelynn
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| 02/21/2010 10:15 AM |
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| wow, Nate, I thought I'd get that question first... since I'm the one who cracks down on purity rings and all that =P |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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clare
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| 02/22/2010 3:25 PM |
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Well...there's this one guy I think the world of. We have known each other for about a year or so.Last year we were good friends and something came up and we didn't talk for like nine months. recently we met up (it was totally God's doing i don't see how it couldn't have been) and we do a lot together. I live alone during the week...and I guess you can say we both had good morals but not strong enough lines and rules in our hearts. We both gave something we can't take back. I still think he's the most amazing guy, but we have a lot harder road a head of us than if we had been stronger. I can already see God at work helping us do right from now on. I may soon have to get a new job which means I won't be living alone and that will take away a lot of the temptations.
My parents don't know. I'm not sure they need to yet. But it wasn't long after that happened I wrote the post above. No matter how you've been raised and taught the final choice is yours. me of all people no one would have ever expected to do it. I never thought myself that I would. maybe if Gd can use my experiences to help others...
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nateynate
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| 02/23/2010 10:28 PM |
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| Dang. Im sorry that had to happen to you like that. Things like that never leave easy. ill be praying for you. |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 02/24/2010 12:09 AM |
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Same here. I'll keep you in thought and prayer. |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
Mike Zito |
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clare
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| 02/24/2010 2:40 PM |
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my brother found out and when my friend came over he texted me and said for him to get out of here he's a sex predator and unless he tells dad what we did he isn't welcome around here. My brother doesn't know this guy, jsut what we did so that's why he thinks that. He isn't a creep though! But my friend said that he isn't welcome or trusted around here so he's gone. He won't stand up for me and i have to face my parents alone. He's gone, if people won't give him a chance there's no reason staying around not even for me. This is the second guy to do that to me and the first guy we didn't even do anything wrong!!
Was my brother right in running him off? We were going to tell my parents I wasn't ready now. My parents will think my friend used me and ran when he got caught when I know that's not the case. I know it's not fair but I am starting to think guys are cowards. They won't face their own mistakes. they like to hide behind the girl's back. |
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nateynate
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| 02/28/2010 3:14 PM |
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| Well thats not always true but it does happen unforunately. It gives the rest of us guys a bad rep. Now he might jut be as scared as you facing your parents for wat he did. You are there daughter and he is probably scared of your dad now because of wat he did. As for your brother, i think he was just trying to protect you. I dont think he meant any harm or to chase him off and leave you screwed. |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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