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David
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| 07/21/2009 4:30 PM |
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Inspired by the thread "The Female Body," I have decided to start this. Ladies, what is it about guys that's so attractive? I realize that girls aren't as visual as guys, but I know many of you on this very forum have talked about how guys without shirts on can be quite distracting. What about the male form is attractive?
More than that, why are guys attractive in general? For the life of me, I can't comprehend why anyone would ever be attracted to a guy. I mean, I guess I can understand it conceptually, but not in practicality. So please, do explain.
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Locke
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| 07/21/2009 9:49 PM |
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| Haha, David, I feel exactly the same way. It puzzles me when girls find me interesting or attractive. |
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wjr1991
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| 07/21/2009 10:25 PM |
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I was just wondering that again the other day... so... I third that!
For the life of me, I can't comprehend why anyone would ever be attracted to a guy.
My thoughts exactly! |
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Abi_xD
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| 07/22/2009 5:23 AM |
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To be honest
we mostly dont know
but i know that a guy special to a girl can make her feel protected and like she measures up
God just created girls to be attracted to guys, its clever because he made guys to be attracted to girls = ]
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Abi_xD
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| 07/22/2009 5:29 AM |
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Haha that last line sounds so stupid!
but its true
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if i didnt make it clear in my first comment i'd like to say that girls are partly attracted to guys for the way they make them feel as well as looks
a girl cant truely fall in love with a guy who doesnt make her feel secure and loved (even if he is the hottest guy on earth) |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 07/22/2009 8:36 AM |
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Well, in my opion a guys look DO matter. I mean, I am physically attracted to my boyfriend. Hes a blondie with cute blue eyes and is fairly toned. I know some girls who will go off on how he "looks like a girl" but in my eyes I totally can't see it! In some ways, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And the times he looks most attractive to me arn't the times he's topless, but the times when I glance over and see his hands raised in worship to God, or the moments when he looks into my eyes and utters something sweet that makes my heart flutter. Suddenly any imperfections he has kind of melt away. Especially when Jesus shines through him. He may not be the most buff or masculine guy out there, but to me, hes like ABSOLUTELY gorgeous.
But, I mean, I've liked two other guys in my life, and though they are both cute guys (they've certainly grown up since I liked them tho), it was thier endearing sense of humor that caught my heart. It like transfixed me! lol
Also, I went to camp and thier was this very cute guy there, however, once I got to know him, he kind of just faded into the background, not because he was bad or anything, but he wasn't a Christian and he just didn't attract me on a deeper level than, "oh he's cute." And being cute wasn't enough to keep my attention. Now, he's just another guy. Nothing more.
Annnd lol, there is this guy whose certainly much too old for me, so I have no "like/lve" feelings for him, but he is attractive - not because of looks (personally he's lacking them), but because of his humorous yet dry personality.
So boys, I don't quite know. A buff bod might turn a girl head, but a sweet edearing side, a passion for God, and a little bit of humor will keep our attention. |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 07/22/2009 8:36 AM |
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Well, in my opion a guys look DO matter. I mean, I am physically attracted to my boyfriend. Hes a blondie with cute blue eyes and is fairly toned. I know some girls who will go off on how he "looks like a girl" but in my eyes I totally can't see it! In some ways, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And the times he looks most attractive to me arn't the times he's topless, but the times when I glance over and see his hands raised in worship to God, or the moments when he looks into my eyes and utters something sweet that makes my heart flutter. Suddenly any imperfections he has kind of melt away. Especially when Jesus shines through him. He may not be the most buff or masculine guy out there, but to me, hes like ABSOLUTELY gorgeous.
But, I mean, I've liked two other guys in my life, and though they are both cute guys (they've certainly grown up since I liked them tho), it was thier endearing sense of humor that caught my heart. It like transfixed me! lol
Also, I went to camp and thier was this very cute guy there, however, once I got to know him, he kind of just faded into the background, not because he was bad or anything, but he wasn't a Christian and he just didn't attract me on a deeper level than, "oh he's cute." And being cute wasn't enough to keep my attention. Now, he's just another guy. Nothing more.
Annnd lol, there is this guy whose certainly much too old for me, so I have no "like/lve" feelings for him, but he is attractive - not because of looks (personally he's lacking them), but because of his humorous yet dry personality.
So boys, I don't quite know. A buff bod might turn a girl head, but a sweet edearing side, a passion for God, and a little bit of humor will keep our attention. |
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David
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| 07/22/2009 11:28 AM |
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A buff bod might turn a girl head
This is my question: why? What is so great about a buff bod?
Also, what if you met a guy who was a great guy, a strong Christian, sweet, confident, etc., but he wasn't very funny? |
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Adelynn
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| 07/22/2009 2:18 PM |
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In response to why do girls like toned guys- what is it about a girl's healthy body that guys like? I think it's mostly the same idea; strong, capable people are attractive. In my opinion ;-P I'm a very capable person, so when someone can do something physically that I can't, it impresses me.
About a great guy who isn't very funny... if a girl likes you, she will probably giggle or laugh at whatever you say. Being Robin Williams isn't the idea; it's that life is full of things that are hard, so a content, joyful personality is something that people gravitate towards. I say "joyful" because I think that there is a difference between being happy and being joyful.
Something David said in "The Female Body" (these are kind of weird titles, guys... haha =) that I thought was funny and I can relate to with guys- they smell good. The aftershaves and guys shampoo and all that... if it's not overwhelmingly strong, I love it.
People laugh at me, but I love... I think it's Old Spice?... because it reminds me of my grandfather. it just takes me back to another time. |
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JoJo
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| 07/22/2009 6:16 PM |
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| Yeah all I can say is tonned guys are attractive, but I have also liked guys who weren't, so yeah... There's nothing really that I can think of that's really all that attractive about a guy's body... unless it's his arms cuz they can protect you? but honest I have no clue... it's just not something girls really think about... |
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Sandy
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| 07/22/2009 6:28 PM |
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| A guys look is important to a certain extent. What's so great about a guy with a buff or toned body? Well it shows that they take care of themselves and as Adelynn said are capable. However the personality of a guy can deeply impact the way he's seen. It can enhance his looks and make a girl become more attracted to him or it could do quite the opposite. Oh and it doesn't really matter if you're funny. Everyone has a different opinion of what funny is and she might just think you're funny and if not then if you make her feel happy or just say something to make her smile then that's great. And Adelynn i'm the exact same way.I don't know why but i love the way a guy can smell. Sometimes I prefer smelling aftershave than cologne, haha |
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cherry
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| 07/22/2009 7:44 PM |
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I love this question. But to answer it, first of all everyone has their own tastes. The same with food, scents, etc different people find different things attractive. This is much influenced by the way some people were raised. Those who come form a family with loving parents find themselves attracted to people who resemble their mother/father. (father/mother complex). ie: a girl with a strong and smart dad will be drawn to strong and smart guys. (just for the record this isn't 100% true with everyone, just the average.) So it's as much influenced by the person's own taste as well as the environment that influences him/her.
Secondly, I would venture to say that people aren't attracted to someone's "body" per say. We don't find the body attractive, we find the feelings that the body makes us feel attractive. To explain it in a more simple way, let's say you like the scent of roses, if you meet someone who smells like roses you'll be instantly drawn to them, because you enjoy the feeling you get by smelling roses, and she reminds you of that feeling.
Now this is a pretty basic example. In reality it's much more complex. What the other's have talked about fits into this "theory". Many girls are attracted to muscular guys because he makes them feel protected. But it's not the muscle itself that we find attractive, but the feeling of safety it/he causes.
The reason why you can still like a guy who isn't muscular, is that you are drawn to a different quality in him. ie: he's funny and makes her laugh, she likes laughing and feeling happy, so she likes being with him.
To this of course comes the whole spiel of the person's personality etc. As to the male body itself. Sexually speaking. We find it attractive because we're just wired that way.
So that would be my "theory". Hope it makes some sense!
By the way, I'm taking psychology courses, hence all the reference to psychology. Sorry if it's long, I tried to make it not too tedious to read.
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David
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| 07/22/2009 11:52 PM |
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Cherry, I'm actually majoring in psychology so I don't mind references to it, haha.
I think a lot of what you had to say is pretty valid, though I would say there are plenty of girls who actually find the muscular / lean look attractive in its own right. As you say, girls are just wired that way.
Now if we could just figure out this humor thing... |
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clare
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| 07/23/2009 8:59 PM |
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Like everyone has mentioned buff guys make us feel protected and safe even if they aren't the stongest man out there. The humor thing is a must. If a guy isn't interesting there's nothing to look forward to. No surprise laugh or a combat of wits. I know a few guys who have no sense of humor what so ever and they are almost repulsive even though they are good looking. I'm not really sure just what makes a guy attractive to a girl, I don't think about it-I just feel it!
I know what you mean by Old Spice Adalynn..my dad wears it and I can smell a man in it a mile away. Guys like girls to smell good, well girls like guys to also. Not overpowering though!! |
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Abi_xD
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| 07/24/2009 6:05 AM |
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Girls like guys who are humorous partly because funny people have a sense of confidence about them. Since some girls lack confidence (mostly due to media saying u have to be this thin and look this way) so they are drawn to confident people who make them feel confident too.
A humorous guy like clare said is also attractive to a girl because hes just so fun to be around!
But that doesnt mean that theres no hope for the 'strong, silent' type. Girls like them too!
But thats just my perspective = ] which is probably very different to yours. Words like 'majoring in psychology' have led me to believe you are way older than me. |
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David
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| 07/24/2009 10:16 AM |
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The humor thing is a must
This is something that has always bothered me. Plenty of guys are not born naturally funny, putting us at a huge disadvantage. If you want to draw a comparison between guys being attracted to a girls body and girls being attracted to a guys humor, it must be realized that the humor is the far more difficult of the two to obtain. There are hundreds if not thousands of great guides out there for people to increase their physical appearance to their maximum potential. While getting in shape is difficult, it's not at all rocket science, and anyone can easily do it. However, where are the "how to be charmingly funny" guides for those of us who don't just have it naturally? To reiterate my point, the female emphasis on humor essentially takes a ton of guys out of the running because they simply weren't born funny.
Girls like guys who are humorous partly because funny people have a sense of confidence about them. Since some girls lack confidence (mostly due to media saying u have to be this thin and look this way) so they are drawn to confident people who make them feel confident too.
The culture tells guys that we have to be and act a certain way as well (the current conversation about humor being a prime example). Because of this, as you say about girls, guys are just as likely as girls to have very little confidence, yet we are the gender expected to be the confident one. It's just a bit weird to me.
But thats just my perspective = ] which is probably very different to yours. Words like 'majoring in psychology' have led me to believe you are way older than me.
Haha, I'm 21. How old are you? |
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Locke
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| 07/24/2009 11:08 AM |
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I'll note that if a girl likes you she'll laugh at even your stupid jokes. That's been the case for me more than once.
And I would have to disagree about humor being difficult to acquire. It takes some work, yes, but from my experience it mostly takes being observant and being willing to laugh at oneself, if need be. |
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David
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| 07/24/2009 11:23 AM |
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Ah, but you can't laugh at yourself too much or you will effectively give yourself too low of a status in her mind. The guys who are the best at attracting girls (note: not keeping them) are the ones who give themselves a very high status in a girls mind - higher than hers, making her work for his affection. This is the problem with the too many compliments: if you compliment her too much, you're just giving her everything for free. I didn't make these "rules," girls just require some pretty crazy stuff it seems. Maybe not all the girls on the board here, but most of them out there.
Also, this presents a very significant irony. The kind of guy you must be to be very good at attracting girls is often the exact opposite of the kind of guy you must be to be able to make a girl fall deeply in love with you and maintain the relationship long-term. What do we do then? Do we focus on attracting girls, but then we're never able to keep one? Or do we focus on keeping a girl, but then we can't ever get a girl to like us to give us a chance to keep her? Of course, this isn't true of all girls; but a significant number of them, yes. |
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Kathryn
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| 07/24/2009 12:55 PM |
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| I think a large amount of this conversation has disqualified the sovereignty of God. I know that we cannot use His sovereignty as an excuse not to take responsibility.
However, God knows what we want and more importantly what we need. His design in marriage is not to put you with a spouse that you don't find attractive or interesting or fun to be with. He blesses us with those things in our spouses. He gives us the gift of companionship (although companionship, romance, nor sex is the purpose for marriage) in order to sweeten our lives and give us happiness in the middle of what can be a mundane day-to-day life (paying bills, cleaning house, jobs, raising kids, to-do lists, etc.)
Again, I am not saying sit back and wait for God to bring you the perfect mate that has all the qualities on your list. Nor am I saying you should marry an unattractive person in all areas and expect God to transform your view of him/her.
I am saying that God knows what He is doing. And He knows what you need in a spouse. If we look for the important things in a person (purpose, character), instead of looking for someone who is just physially attractive or charismatic according to today's standards, we would probably do better as a whole. |
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Locke
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| 07/24/2009 1:20 PM |
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You make an excellent point, Kathryn. We all have to keep that in mind.
And David, I'm not saying laugh at yourself often or constantly. But once in a while it can be appropriate - if you never laugh at your mistakes, that's a problem, too. |
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