Jimmy
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| 11/30/2009 10:32 PM |
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| I'm pretty sure those are one of the worst things you can say to a guy. I remember when my ex tried to explain that to me and say it was because I was distracted her from the Lord so she had to break up. It was one of the lowest moving relationships I had been in before so I don't see how. Two weeks and she was with another guy. So, yea... |
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Jimmy
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| 11/30/2009 10:32 PM |
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| I'm pretty sure those are one of the worst things you can say to a guy. I remember when my ex tried to explain that to me and say it was because it distracted her from the Lord so she had to break up. It was one of the slowest moving relationships I had been in before so I don't see how. Two weeks and she was with another guy. So, yea... |
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Scifi
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| 12/01/2009 1:31 AM |
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| Yeah that's kinda harsh. Girls- saying "I wanna be just friends" is a guy's nightmare!! |
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"The purpose of Christianity is not to avoid difficulty, but to produce a character adequate to meet it when it comes. It does not make life easy; rather it tries to make us great enough for life." -- James L. Christensen
"For a small reward, a man will hurry away on a long journey; while for eternal life, many will hardly take a single step." Thomas a' Kempis (1380-1471)
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clare
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| 12/01/2009 2:16 PM |
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| But what if the girl breaks up with the guy, and she knows it would probably be months and a lot of time before they could be "just friends" and all the old feelings are gone so she's really trying to back off, polite, but not overly friendly, but the guy is saying "they can be just friends" and still hang out together. At first she had said they could be jsut friedns since her feelings were'nt as deep, but he says no so she says ok, good bye and to her it's over. Then he calls and wants to be friends again, not dating but still doing things togethr with other friends...she knows she will never have feelings for him agian, but she knows he will for her... |
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Tpenno
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| 12/01/2009 9:20 PM |
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What i meant was.. i haven't even started a relationship with him... I don't know too much about him. So i don't want to jump into a relationship right away, i just want to get to know him better. Any suggestions about what to say? Thanks  |
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Tpenno
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| 12/01/2009 9:31 PM |
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| Oh and thankyou guys so much for replying. If this relationship gets serious it will be my first relationship. I just want to make sure that i take his feelings into account and make this relationship is one that would be pleasing to God.
I really appreciate it.
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Jimmy
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| 12/01/2009 9:44 PM |
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Posted By clare on 12/01/2009 2:16 PM
At first she had said they could be jsut friedns since her feelings were'nt as deep, but he says no so she says ok, good bye and to her it's over. Then he calls and wants to be friends again, not dating but still doing things togethr with other friends...she knows she will never have feelings for him agian, but she knows he will for her...
Definitely have not heard a guy if he said "no" to the friend question to still have strong feelings for her very long. In a few months it's over. However I have heard of the person who breaks up running back to the person more often. |
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Jimmy
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| 12/01/2009 9:50 PM |
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| (why is there no edit button) I guess it's more depending on the person. I was looking at it from my perspective. The situation above happened to me by two girls. I was heartbroken for a few months and then I got over it to the point I really didn't care to get back together again. Both of the girls that did that tried to get back together with me, but I was over it. |
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clare
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| 12/02/2009 9:41 PM |
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| Well I am certainly not going back to him! I broke up with him a few times and usually in a day we were together agian. God has really taught me a lessona nd I am not going back, I had to get away from him and just look at the situation and I am fully confident God has someone else for me. My ex sure doesn't think that. So you think he'll get over it? A hint as to how far it was...he already had bought the engagement ring when I broke up with him... |
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clare
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| 12/02/2009 9:49 PM |
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| @ Jimmy- weird how you can guess a person's age by what they say. Nice to have a few "older" ones on here |
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Jimmy
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| 12/03/2009 1:37 AM |
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| Good it was you perceiving me as older and not younger. lol. I'm sure he'll get over it, but if he bought a ring that might be a while. |
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Godblessed
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| 01/12/2011 8:01 PM |
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Wow i know what you are feeling, i am in the same situation myself!!! i tried tell him that i have no feelings for him but he just would't stop until he hears an yes and when i told him yes, it never turned out how i wanted it. i am totally regreting it right now!! i really don't know what to do any more. I really need some advice. |
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James
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| 01/13/2011 2:41 AM |
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Prayer is always a good start
Things rarely turn out exactly how we want/expect right away, especially in a relationship. I would say you should tell him exactly how you feel and what's happened.
Sounds like he's kept pushing for you to go out with him, then you said yes just to make him stop in the hope that you would like him and end up together. I think it does happen a bit where the girl is a bit reluctant at first and then warms to her man much more. If this isn't happening for you at all you probably shouldn't keep the relationship going much longer.
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Godblessed
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| 01/13/2011 11:57 AM |
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| thanks but i really don't want to hurt his feelings because he is like ma best friend. i am really trying though. |
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James
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| 01/13/2011 5:42 PM |
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| Yeah ok, sorry I didn't realise you were really good friends. I'm sure you'll figure it out just try not to get into a situation/relationship that you aren't comfortable with and can't find a way out of |
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JoJo
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| 02/03/2011 12:20 AM |
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| yeah i know a few friends who have been really hurt by the "God said i shouldn't be with you" and have actually blamed God and stopped believing in him... so we really need to watch how we say stuff... and even if you still remain friends, some of the feelings still remain, i should know lol. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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