Becka
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| 07/30/2010 2:08 AM |
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It seems a silly or maybe obvious question, but really, what are some everyday little ways we can show the guys around us that we respect them? And without them thinking we fancy them for paying them the attention?
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my blog - http://beckasramblings.blogspot.com/
previously Jessamae.
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Clockwork*
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| 08/27/2010 8:06 AM |
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| Well it's easy! I believe the first step in respecting a guy is respecting yourself. If you dress modestly and use decent (not necessarily perfect) grammar then you are off to a good start. I mean slang is fine, just as long as it's not excessive. Now as far as demonstrating respect towards guys, a good thing to do is to allow the male to be the gentleman. Many females who have a background of verbal abuse and/or disrespect often do not know how to accept being treated with respect. When a guy tries to be a gentleman he feels good knowing he is assisting the female in whatever she is or was going to engage herself in. It is respectful to allow guys to open doors or pull out chairs for you. It alllows them to take on the role of being a man and gentleman, and that is building them up. It is very respectful to do this. Apart from that, simple things like not showing off as much of your body as you can (i.e. wearing 5" skirts and something on the torso that covers no more or less than what a bra would). Also not using derogatory or obscene language, of course. Anything else stated would be kindergarten knowledge. Be advised, doing these things and respecting guys is greatly admired and attractive. So if you respect guys, there's no saying they won't develop feelings for you or find you very attractive... So they may tend to think you "fancy" them but it's normal and good. I mean who doesn't want a good, Christian female with ethics and submission? |
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Nikki
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| 10/19/2010 10:44 AM |
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| Thanks clockwork! ive been wondering about that for a while, too, an rly helps!!!! thx! |
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Clockwork*
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| 10/20/2010 3:55 PM |
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| no prob! |
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"They told me 'Son, you're special... You were born to do great things.' Well you know what...? They were right..." - Jack *Bioschock 1*
I sit in this chair in awe of how you have this effect on me. It's as if I went to a pharmicist and they handed me you. When I smell you I become intoxicated by your narcotic aroma. I am addicted to you as if you were some specialized nicotine. I swallow your gaze like ecstasy. Please sedate me and do what you wish; never cease to be my personal prescribed heroin...
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 10/21/2010 4:25 PM |
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Posted By Clockwork* on 08/27/2010 8:06 AM
Well it's easy! I believe the first step in respecting a guy is respecting yourself. If you dress modestly and use decent (not necessarily perfect) grammar then you are off to a good start. I mean slang is fine, just as long as it's not excessive. Now as far as demonstrating respect towards guys, a good thing to do is to allow the male to be the gentleman. Many females who have a background of verbal abuse and/or disrespect often do not know how to accept being treated with respect. When a guy tries to be a gentleman he feels good knowing he is assisting the female in whatever she is or was going to engage herself in. It is respectful to allow guys to open doors or pull out chairs for you. It alllows them to take on the role of being a man and gentleman, and that is building them up. It is very respectful to do this. Apart from that, simple things like not showing off as much of your body as you can (i.e. wearing 5" skirts and something on the torso that covers no more or less than what a bra would). Also not using derogatory or obscene language, of course. Anything else stated would be kindergarten knowledge. Be advised, doing these things and respecting guys is greatly admired and attractive. So if you respect guys, there's no saying they won't develop feelings for you or find you very attractive... So they may tend to think you "fancy" them but it's normal and good. I mean who doesn't want a good, Christian female with ethics and submission?
Perfectly stated  So you mentioned modesty... and skirts, so um, do you think it's bad for a girl's knees to show when she is sitting (or even standing) in a skirt? In other words, are skirts like that too short? I personally prefer mine to be a little below the knee (just to play things safely for the sake of you guys out there) but was just wondering what a guy thinks. |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 10/21/2010 4:25 PM |
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Posted By Clockwork* on 08/27/2010 8:06 AM
Well it's easy! I believe the first step in respecting a guy is respecting yourself. If you dress modestly and use decent (not necessarily perfect) grammar then you are off to a good start. I mean slang is fine, just as long as it's not excessive. Now as far as demonstrating respect towards guys, a good thing to do is to allow the male to be the gentleman. Many females who have a background of verbal abuse and/or disrespect often do not know how to accept being treated with respect. When a guy tries to be a gentleman he feels good knowing he is assisting the female in whatever she is or was going to engage herself in. It is respectful to allow guys to open doors or pull out chairs for you. It alllows them to take on the role of being a man and gentleman, and that is building them up. It is very respectful to do this. Apart from that, simple things like not showing off as much of your body as you can (i.e. wearing 5" skirts and something on the torso that covers no more or less than what a bra would). Also not using derogatory or obscene language, of course. Anything else stated would be kindergarten knowledge. Be advised, doing these things and respecting guys is greatly admired and attractive. So if you respect guys, there's no saying they won't develop feelings for you or find you very attractive... So they may tend to think you "fancy" them but it's normal and good. I mean who doesn't want a good, Christian female with ethics and submission?
Perfectly stated So you mentioned modesty... and skirts, so um, do you think it's bad for a girl's knees to show when she is sitting (or even standing) in a skirt? In other words, are skirts like that too short? I personally prefer mine to be a little below the knee (just to play things safely for the sake of you guys out there) but was just wondering what a guy thinks. |
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Clockwork*
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| 10/21/2010 4:52 PM |
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I think its fine. Really it depends on the combinaton of the lenght of the skirt and how tight it is. If it's a little on the short side but not so tight you can see your organs coming out of it then I think it is ok. Obviously there still is a limit as to how short it is but a common rule is if the skirt is shorter than teh length of your fingers then it's too short for casual wear. So sometimes my suggestion would be to stand straight and keep your arms side by side. If your fingers go past your skirt.. too short, if not then you are fine. Again though it also has to do with personal judgement and comfort. Everyone i differnt. I personally wouldn't think a skirt that comes a little above the knees is too short, in fact it is somewhat attractive to me. I feel like a person wearing it like that is more approachable and less strict and closed up. It's strange how dress attire has a language of its own... |
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"They told me 'Son, you're special... You were born to do great things.' Well you know what...? They were right..." - Jack *Bioschock 1*
I sit in this chair in awe of how you have this effect on me. It's as if I went to a pharmicist and they handed me you. When I smell you I become intoxicated by your narcotic aroma. I am addicted to you as if you were some specialized nicotine. I swallow your gaze like ecstasy. Please sedate me and do what you wish; never cease to be my personal prescribed heroin...
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 10/24/2010 10:36 PM |
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| Thanks! I think that's a little short for my convictions, but I'm glad to read your thoughts! |
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Clockwork*
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| 10/25/2010 9:21 AM |
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| sorry i have many things to do =/ so my responses may be a little vague and abiguous |
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"They told me 'Son, you're special... You were born to do great things.' Well you know what...? They were right..." - Jack *Bioschock 1*
I sit in this chair in awe of how you have this effect on me. It's as if I went to a pharmicist and they handed me you. When I smell you I become intoxicated by your narcotic aroma. I am addicted to you as if you were some specialized nicotine. I swallow your gaze like ecstasy. Please sedate me and do what you wish; never cease to be my personal prescribed heroin...
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 10/25/2010 12:09 PM |
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| You were fine! I just meant too short as in the skirt-length itself. Do you email or use the private messaging system on the site? I read a few of your older posts and there's something I wanted to say regarding some of those issues, so email me if you'd like. |
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Clockwork*
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| 10/25/2010 12:44 PM |
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| yeah i have an email. i lso have facebook. whatever is more convenient for you i suppose |
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"They told me 'Son, you're special... You were born to do great things.' Well you know what...? They were right..." - Jack *Bioschock 1*
I sit in this chair in awe of how you have this effect on me. It's as if I went to a pharmicist and they handed me you. When I smell you I become intoxicated by your narcotic aroma. I am addicted to you as if you were some specialized nicotine. I swallow your gaze like ecstasy. Please sedate me and do what you wish; never cease to be my personal prescribed heroin...
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Liz
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| 11/05/2010 6:20 PM |
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So sometimes my suggestion would be to stand straight and keep your arms side by side. If your fingers go past your skirt.. too short, if not then you are fine.
We have that rule at camp, except for shorts. It makes me sad when girls wear those really short shorts and say stuff like "My arms are abnormally long" (we actually measured, and mine were 2 inches longer, and i didn't have any problems) or "I can't find any long shorts" (well, I can help you out there). And I'm sorry, but it really ticks me off. There shouldn't be problems like that at a Bible camp! |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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Jamie
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| 05/27/2011 11:48 AM |
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| So how can a girl be disrespectful with her guy friends??? |
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“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” Romans 12:2 |
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Nicole
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| 05/28/2011 2:43 AM |
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Well I know one way a girl can be disrespectful in general is to let all her manners go down south. That's just showing their company- guys too, what kind of company they think they're in, and when you don't show manners around guys it's like 'What kind of people do you think we are?' 
There's more where that came from, but my brain is ready to crash. Perhaps Jo has something to say... |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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